Ways to prepare for death
It is easy to get lost in the shuffle of death. A lot less is written about how to prepare yourself for the death or a death of a loved one. It isn't something that most people would like to have to deal with. It makes us worried, sad, or extremely difficult to think about the passing of a beloved one. Although things are going well, it can be difficult to think about the future and not worry about it.
For the young and healthy, this may be fine. As we age, the possibility of losing our lives is more likely. When we're struck with illness, injury, or other circumstances, it is possible that these questions of mortality and eventual loss will become more common. I'm not saying that we need be gloomy about the future or dwelling on what could go wrong. However, we must be aware of the fact that life is always changing. Some of these changes in life can mean loss.
The loss of any person is devastating. But the most meaningful relationships in our lives are the ones we choose to share our hopes and dream, our sorrows, tragedies, and our triumphs. Death of a spouse/partner is the end of a shared life. It can be a difficult time.
How prepared are we for the loss or a person who has had such an impact on our lives and meant so much? The majority of us won't be able or willing to make the necessary preparations to cover the entire loss. To be able to express our grief and determine what we should do, we must first experience the loss of a loved one.
However, there are many things that we can do in order to be prepared for when someone dies. Some of these things are more practical than psychological and emotional. Sometimes, however, the practical--having a plan to follow, and having something to accomplish--provides order in a life that can otherwise feel chaotic.
Speak all you need and want. People often regret not expressing certain emotions or thoughts when someone is alive. Express what you feel today. Don't wait until tomorrow.
It is important to say "I love you" often. When you are with your loved one, be open to expressing your love and concern. It is easy to take everything as it comes. We take life for granted. However, sometimes things are unpredictable.
Don't miss the chance to express your affection. You will be able to make your loved one feel loved and cared for.
Talk about family assets. This includes all financial assets, property, and personal belongings. Are to be found. Know your lawyer, asset manager/financial advisor. Know your account numbers and banking information. It is common for one spouse to handle this information. The other person may not have all the information.
Be aware that you will grieve the loss. Separate or de-cathect the deceased. This involves more than just physical separation. It is also the process of withdrawing the mental or emotional energy that the deceased had invested. This can seem cruel and unfair. It is not something anyone wants to have to do. However, it is vital to get on with your daily life. If not, one may feel emotionally stuck and be unable to move forward in life.
Be aware that you will still grieve for a long period of time. It could be forever. This is normal. It is a feeling of sorrow. Or, in Latin, it means to grieve, which comes from the gravis word that means heavy. We all carry the weight of a heavy soul, not just for the loss of our loved ones, but also for us, and ourselves. "Who am I if you're not here?" How can I continue?"
The living not only grieve the death of their loved ones, but also for the part of them that has "died" with them. How we experience loss and how we cope with it is what makes Loss so difficult. You don't need to be set up by anyone as a guideline or a time frame for your grief.
Think about the future. It may seem like a silly exercise. However, knowing that you have many choices and being able envision your life differently can help you organize and make plans for the future.
Allow yourself to be flexible and follow your own pace. After a loss, there is no need to make drastic changes immediately. You can have a better and more realistic view by allowing things to settle down. You should not sell or move the property or business unless there is an urgent need. If you haven't had time to consider all options, you will be sure to know what to do.
When a loved person dies, it is important to learn how to take your own time. Your time will not be normal in the traditional sense. The linear and logical will undoubtedly intertwine with memories, and reverie. Take care of yourself. The loss of a relationship means that you will no longer feel the love you once had. It is time to reevaluate what love means in your life.
